Dear Mystic Sisters

My ex-husband is still trying to rule my life. He does everything he can to hurt me, emotionally, through our children. Is he an energy vampire and what can be done to stop the impact he has over me?

Shallah

Dear Shallah

Oh dear! The cards don't look good at all regarding him. He is an energy vampire and gets a sadistic thrill from drawing all of your positive energy. Sadly your second child who is usually very loving is inclined to her fathers behaviour. I don't see you being in love wih him, but there is an extensive vulnerability regarding him. He will not stop with this behaviour. You will have to build. Strong positive field around you to repel his energy. You will have to focus on you and not on him. Every now and again you allow yourself to feel sorry for him and his negativity draws you in. Please be careful.

Mellissa

how can I tell if my boyfriend and I are going to get better with time or if we will continue to float in this stagnating way that we've been going down for the last year? Is there another out there for me because he ignores me no matter what I do and I am craving something real. Thalia M.

Hi Thalia

This relationship is at a comfortable stalemate. I do see you leaving and getting back with him. He does seem in adept as romance but his feelings for you are point blank sincere. I do see a marriage for you both. Talk to him. Open up. You do seem aggressive with your approach to the relationship. Tread carefully as your heart is till heavily invested.

Dear Mystic Sisters

Ever since the baby came along, I've noticed my husband has lost interest. Sunday, I found him looking at a men's magazine and another online site. Most of all, he just seems annoyed being in the same room. I gained 20 pounds only in the pregnancy and he supports us. What am I doing wrong? I cannot look like that 16 weeks after giving birth without looking and feeling a mess. It is causing me resentment. Help.

Linda S.

Hi Linda. Firstly, congrats! Being a mommy is truly a gift. He is sexually frustrated. He does not want a pin up girl, but he wants your mojo baby! Stop questioning and start doing. He is not having an affair. What are you doing to improve and kick start your energy? Have you changed your diet with more B vitamins? Signed up for yoga or a gym? He loves you completely but gets turned off by "that look" you have on your face of constant irritation. He is annoyed that there is a cap on sex. Not annoyed with his wife. Get moving gorgeous x

I am 46 and it looks that I will be single for the rest of my life. I've always been open to relationships and have a great career. I'm also attractive and a good person. Is there someone out there for me and if there is, how do I find him? I live in the central part of England, I'm a size 8 and a middle class, well-spoken lady with dark hair and blue eyes. Where is he, Mellissa?

Claire M.

Hi Claire. It seems you ave done well for yourself. Well done. There is someone out there for you. You do give off a rather stiff impression of yourself and people who (potentially would like to date you) find your passion for life running dry. Don't focus on the obvious which is to ind your man. Focus on you. He will head your way in 9 months from now. I see you meeting him socially so get out there and live a little!

I have been attempting to attract the interest of a particular guy online and although we both really like each other, trying to get him to open up his feelings to me has been like pulling teeth. He keeps saying that if he wasn't interested, he would not be in touch "and put such feeling into it". Clearly he isn't great with expressing himself because I don't get that message at all! Am I being strung along? I just want to take time to know each other for a while and take the plunge into something bigger with him.

Brenda M.

Dear Brenda

Forget him!

Love Mellissa.

I am in a dead relationship and want out. I'm scared of being alone and I like having him as a companion. Is this acceptable or am I being deceptive and wrong?

Daisy

Hi darling,

Many people keep their options open and so are you. He adores you but has become mentally lazy in this relationship. He won't walk away unless you do. I do see a new man in 2 years. Yes it is deceptive but mostly to yourself as the world sees you as an attached woman. You would never carry a dead horse about, why carry this? You are witty, loving, naughty and gorgeous. Get out there and seize the world!

Mystic Sisters Mellissa and Jayshree Mallaya are a household name in South Africa with a clientele of the who's who from Hollywood to Bollywood and the everyday stars. Mellissa followed her heart and now lives with her husband in London where she does Skype, telephonic and 1 on 1 sessions.